1. It’s ok to be shit to begin with
Whenever I start a new project its not long before I think I should give up. Even if I’m only a day or two into the project. I will be listing in my head all the problems I foresee ahead and why I wouldn’t be able to overcome these issues or achieve what I want. Truth is, mistakes have to be made in order to learn and develop your skills. Eventually solutions are found and what once seemed a daunting and impossible task will become second nature. It’s the persistence to over come the doubt and to accept its ok to be shit to begin with.
2. Persistence & resilience is the real key to success
When life is going well its easy to get complacent. It’s only when there is a hiccup that we must remember the plan is going to work – eventually. It’s the drive to push through the set backs. That is the true test on whether you’ll be a success or not. As Churchill said when you’re walking through hell – keep walking.
3. All judgement is perceived
I’m so guilty of this. No matter how many times I tell myself not to let my inner beliefs cloud my judgement about what other people think about me – I do. It’s easy to think if a person likes you or not by judging their actions towards you or the way they speak to you but its just your perception. There are a number of reasons why someone’s demeanour is different with you than to another person. Whatever the reason is you have to accept you don’t know. Just be civil. Not everyone has to be your friend.
4. Fate can throw anything at you
Life is all about change. Fate has a way of throwing curve balls at you when you least expect it. No matter how you are planning your day, your week or any other time in the future – remember fate might have other ideas. It’s down to you to work any unforeseen changes into opportunities and new adventures!
5. Feelings fade
Emotions are like detonators. You never know when one will be triggered, sending you into a spiral of overwhelming feelings. Feelings do fade but they don’t erase themselves completely. When dealing with grief or the loss of someone who meant a great deal to you, the worse part can be the knowledge life will go on without them. That eventually you too will go on without them. Making all those intense feelings somehow lessen from their importance in your life. The truth is those feelings do remain, every now and then, they will return with sharp clarity. You don’t forget that person or the the purpose of their existence in your life- you just accept they are no longer in your life. For me that is more comforting than believing my feelings are dying and nothing is felt for them again. Instead the intensity fades and what is left is the memory of love and happy times.
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